5 Signs Your Emotions Are Secretly Running Your Life (And You're Not the Boss of You)

By a Self-Projected Projector who once thought tears and tantrums were her personality.

1. You Cry at Commercials, But Also at Cutlery Placement

If your emotions surge like a tsunami because someone looked at you “the wrong way” or forgot to say “thank you” for the rice you made, congratulations, your Undefined Solar Plexus has hijacked the wheel.

Real talk: I used to cry so much I thought I was a walking water sign (I’m not). Turns out, I was absorbing my emotionally defined mother’s waves and riding them like a ship without a sail.

Hint: If you have an Undefined or Open Solar Plexus, you don’t just feel emotions. You amplify them. So when someone’s annoyed… You might end up in a puddle of your drama.

2. You Make Decisions Based on How You Feel... and Then Regret Everything

Ever texted someone a 17-line paragraph because you were “in your feelings,” only to want to delete yourself from the internet 2 hours later?

I used to lash out and make decisions in the heat of emotional surges. But as a Self-Projected Projector, emotions aren’t my authority; my Identity is. And let’s just say, my emotions had no business driving the car, my G does. See more on Centres.

Pro tip: If you make life choices based on your emotional highs or lows, and you consistently say, “Ugh, why did I DO that?”.  Emotions are running the show, defined or not.

3. You’re the Emotional Thermostat in Every Room (Without Trying)

I didn’t just feel my mom’s emotions, I became them. Joy, sadness, passive-aggressive silence? I was the remix version.

My Undefined Solar Plexus was like an emotional amplifier set to MAX.

At home, I fought all my siblings (one scar still lives joyfully on my face, I’ve got scars). Outside? I beat up other kids, too, and not just emotionally, I was amplifying their Sacral energy, too 🤣.

If you often “match” the energy of whoever you're around, or worse, react to it faster than they do, it might not be your emotion you're acting on. It might just be borrowed energy... with interest.

4. You Over-Apologise… or Don’t Know What You’re Apologising For

You feel so much that the conflict feels like your fault, even when it’s not. So you apologise for everything.

OR

You blow up, blame someone for “making” you feel something, and later realise… it wasn’t even that deep.

Welcome to the emotional confusion of an Undefined Solar Plexus trying to make sense of someone else's emotional journey.

Spoiler alert: You can’t.

Self-awareness hack: When you slow down and ask, “Is this even mine?” life starts to make a lot more sense.

5. You Think You’re Broken Because You Feel Too Much

This one hurts a little.

Growing up, I thought I was just “too sensitive,” “too reactive,” “too much.” People said I needed to “toughen up.” But they didn’t see the invisible frequency I was picking up from everyone’s emotional body.

Now I know, I’m not broken. I’m beautifully open. I’m wired to taste emotional energy... not to keep it.

And now that I honour my Design and Inner Authority, I don’t let emotions steer the ship. I just let them pass like waves, observed, felt, and released.

Final Thought:

If these signs feel a little too familiar, your emotions might be writing your story in Sharpie when they should just be part of the dialogue.

Your emotions are important, but they’re not always true. And if you’ve got an Undefined Solar Plexus? They’re often not even yours.

The good news? Awareness is the first step toward reclaiming your Inner Authority and being yourself.

And for us, Self-Projected Projectors? That Self is everything.

Share With Me:

Are you riding the wave or absorbing the room? How do emotions show up in your decision-making process?