Relationship

The Nature of Relationships

Why do we have them and what is it within the mechanism that actually makes it possible, because as every single one of you know, one of the most difficult things to do in life is to maintain relationships. And to maintain quality relationships—whether those quality relationships are with friends, lovers, children, parents, whatever it may be—we all understand that this is something that is quite difficult.

It isn't as if it's obvious that this is something we’re designed for. One of the things I talk about a lot is genetic imperative; that is, within the context of what it means to be conditioned, we are designed to be conditioned. This is the way the genetic imperative works. So, we have all of these receptors, and all of these receptors are going, “I want it, I want it, I want it.”

But that doesn't mean those receptors inherently know what to do when they get what they want. They don’t. It's just, “I don't have it, and I want it. I don’t have it, I want it,” that's all it is. So, that's not about relationships. It has nothing to do with the relating process. It doesn't. It has to do with, “I want it. I don't have it, I want it.” And of course, this is the nature of what is to be human. “I don’t have it, I want it.” There are more people who have died because the other person wanted what that person had. That’s the movie. “I want it.” But that has nothing to do with relating; nothing.

So, where does the relating part come from? Where is this? We know that we have a Quarter of Duality. It’s inherent in the mandala that there is this Quarter of

Duality that says there is a process we must go through. We know that we’re a bio-form. And the whole reason we’ve got this, “I want it, I want it, I want it,” is so that we can have the sexual reproduction that comes with that. But even in the Quarter of Duality, it simply gives frameworks for the way in which the binary can function. But it’s still not about relating. It isn't.

- Ra Uru Hu (Split Definitions &  Relationships)

Being in a relationship has a lot to do with your Definition, whether you are a Single, Split, Triple Split, or Quadruple Split. What then is Definition?